Do you know people like that? Actually, I was one of them. I would go from practitioner to another in search of a solution that I agreed with! No, I didn't want to start medication, no I don't want surgery, no I don't want..... During this time the aggravation and frustration added to the discomfort of my health problem.
Much of what my diagnosis was about what caused by stress, AND, it was causing me more STRESS!
The bottom line is; according to the American Institute of Stress 75-90% of all visits to doctors result from stress related disorders! No, you didn't choose for stress to get you sick, but your body is telling you loud and clear: DEAL WITH THE STRESS!
Now I'm beginning to understand that there are people who say that want the stress to be managed, but for some reasons they actually don't want to do the work to manage the stress.
Maybe they want a quick fix: like taking a pill to make it go away. The use of anti-anxiety, anti-depressants, are the fastest selling pharmaceutical medications.
Maybe they want to ignore it and think it will go away: like vegging out in front of a TV set; or drinking or taking "recreational" drugs until they are in a stupor where they don't have to look at their lives; or eating until they have filled the emptiness in their soul.
Maybe they are actually enjoying the added attention that they are getting from people who are "cutting them a break", giving them sympathy for their terrible situation. They are worried that if they are no longer a victim they will lose that love.
Maybe they are being "ENABLED" by family or friends, who are actually doing a disservice by not allowing the person to learn from the natural consequences dished out by the universe for people who are not living their lives purposefully.
Maybe they feel like they have to, or must, or should be taking care of the world outside themselves first, and this is what they will naturally suffer because they are such a good person to others. They see themselves as martyrs. This is victim mentality.
This is tough love I'm telling you. The worst lies are the ones you tell yourself. Get over the guilt about what you've been doing up to now. Have a HONEST heart to heart talk with yourself. Speak as honestly as if you were talking to God (if you are a believer). You can even look at yourself in the mirror while you're doing this. If you are not telling the COMPLETE TRUTH to yourself, you will feel it somewhere in your body; your gut, your heart, your shoulders; somewhere the tension will express itself. You may even see it expressed in your face if you are looking in the mirror.
Throw away the blame at others, the world's situation. This is about YOU and the choices that you've made based upon what life has dished out for you. There is NO "FAIR". There is only your attitude. Only once you are willing to accept this, will you be able to move forward.
The bottom line is: either you want to change, or you don't. If you truly want to change more than you want what is, YOU WILL SUCCEED.
So, unless YOU are willing to take the first step of emotional management of your perception of and reaction to stress, your doctor is essentially fighting to free you from YOU. So get ready to spend a lot more money on new practitioners, and approaches to deal with your condition.
If you want help with dealing with that stress, and you are willing to do the work that will free you, I'm here to help you with tools that will help you listen to what is in your heart, and to move on with your life, right here, right now.
